This post is based on a short conversation with two kids. We spoke around the questions on our emotion’s cards, and I was specifically caught by two spontaneous thoughts the kids had from the cards Wild and Secure. From the kids’ thoughts, I have reflected on what these words can awaken within us.
Wild. On the backside of the card Wild there is the question “when do you feel wild?”
One of the kids (seemingly obvious) answer was: “When my teacher leaves the classroom”.
Maybe an emotion most of us can relate to? (“when the cat is away the mice will play”.)
This made me think further… (the remaining text is thus *my* thoughts with the kid’s reflection as starting point)
When are we wild today? And what does it mean to be wild? The word seems to be closely connected with the feeling of freedom – when the authority disappears and (to some extent?) the rules we know (if only for the moment) cease.
Is it somewhat prohibited to be wild? A little outside the frames of what we have been taught to be important. Are you allowed to be wild; only in certain environments? If so – why is that?
If this word is so connected to the feeling of freedom, maybe we should dare to show our kids–and ourselves–that it is possible to be wild without breaking any important rules. What if these rules got even easier to follow if a certain amount of wildness is allowed…
Another question on the card Wild is “Why are grown-ups seldom wild?” and based on the kids thought I truly wonder the same. What is it that frightens us?
Secure. “How does it feel inside to be secure?” we read on the card Secure.
The kid’s answer is (also this one comes quickly, without afterthought): “When you do not feel that you are going to die”.
(Even here the remaining text are my thoughts with that sentence as basis).
When do we feel secure? When there are no hidden dangers, when we are surrounded by love or maybe that we can be ourselves? Presumably a combination of all that. Different in different contexts and naturally dependent on our way of life (I assume security means something different to someone who has never had a roof over their head or food for the day).
If the word secure is placed as contrary to death (in other words the symbol of what we might fear the most)- is there a way to feel secure whilst being ok with, or must accept, life’s mortality? Could those who live in constant danger and worry also experience security?
In such cases, how is it different and how can us grown-ups use that knowledge as a tool to create more security? A broader perspective tends to minimize anxiety…
Wild and Secure. Both words seem (to me) to lead to the wish of being free.
You dare to be wild when you feel free, and you feel secure when you are free of big, scary, intangible thoughts.
Maybe there is reason to reflect about this as parents. What image of freedom am I mediating – are my kids allowed to feel free? Wild and secure?